How is your approach different than other therapists?
Based upon the research associated with Epigenetics and
Neuroplasticity, it has become very clear that the source of most struggles
is the formation of an untruthful personal identity over a life-time of
experience that gets stored at the cellular level. This core belief about
oneself is never fully accessed consciously until shown how to do so. In its
state of being below the threshold of awareness, it continues to impact how
one views all aspects of their life; many times creating patterns that lead
to consistent, amplified negative feelings. Because the research is becoming
so clear, I realized that in order to assist clients permanently, I had to
develop a Program that would allow someone to get rid of unhealthy parts of
that stored learning and then provide a path of how to form a healthy,
truthful identity, creating a whole new implicit memory.
After
approaching therapy from this vantage point for nearly four years, it has
become clear that the research was very accurate in explaining the real
source of problems in our life. The results are in now, and clients that are
willing to go through the program keep having the same positive results they
have been seeking.
Can you explain a little bit more about what you mean?
As people evaluate those aspects of their lives they believe are
causing unhappiness, stress, and intrusive, sometimes overwhelming negative
feelings, they evaluate through a process of what is external to them. "My
husband's infidelity is what has made me so angry," or "I am unhappy because
nobody accepts me," or "Her addiction is tearing our family apart," or "My
teacher is harder on me than the other students." While other people's
behaviors can reasonably create difficulty, if we have a healthy view of
ourselves and are highly aware of this view, then such external events begin
to have less negative impact on how we experience ourselves and life in
general. The real issue is what is going on internally. For example, "My
husband's infidelity..." is usually processed through the template of "I am
obviously not enough (pretty enough, exciting enough, skinny enough,
interesting enough, sexy enough, etc.) for my husband." That personal
assessment now creates a sequential cascade of processes that becomes
absorbed and is stored in neural networks and encoded upon our DNA. That
learning and storing is never dormant, it is always in operation and
continually sends signals that has us view life from an unhealthy core
belief or template.
If I were to shorten the explanation, I
might simply say, practicing being a victim only allows us to see things in
terms of suffering and no choice. Practicing not being a victim would allow
us to see things differently. How we evaluate our external circumstances
will create a reality, which will have us see things as they really are, or
have us see things through a lot of distortion. The evidence of distortion
are negative feelings.
So, tell me about your Program?
My Program is based in increasing awareness of all aspects of our Implicit
Learning or Memory. I do not approach therapy through Behavioral
Modification, Cognitive Restructuring, or endless hours of talking about
someone's issues. My Program is based in a correct understanding of how
learning forms and becomes stored. It is an action based Program that leads
clients through a journey of self-discovery. It is in that journey where old
associations are dismembered allowing for new learning to form and store
properly.
I have no agenda for any of my clients. My goal
in working with individuals is for them to choose to live life based upon
clarity of their truthful identity, rather than to simply react to life
based upon a negative emotion. Whatever that looks like for the client at
the end of the Program is now based in real choice, not reactivity.
How long does the transformation from an unhealthy identity to a healthy,
truthful identity take?
Based upon the research the time required to
change cellular learning is about 18 months. But you will not be with me for
that long. On average, a person will be able to make the necessary
transformation in about 20 sessions. In support of the research, I have
developed an After Care Program, that is largely self-directed, which takes
60 weeks to complete. By the time someone has gone through the 20 hours with
me and then completes the After Care Program, it would be impossible for
them to return to an insecure identity.
Let's keep this in
perspective. If you are 30 Years Old, you have already lived nearly 270,000
hours. In 20 hours you can completely flip your Implicit Learning or Core
Belief about yourself. Isn't it about time?
So there is homework?
Yes, but you will be surprised about how little is
required. If you ever spent more than three minutes in any given day doing
your homework, including the After Care Program, it would be surprising.
Let
me say something to endorse the homework - 1) I guarantee every client that
if they will do the homework that the desired changes will take place; and
2) How do we learn something new? We have to do something new. The homework
will get you to do something new!
It sounds so systematic. Will I ever be able to simply share what I am
feeling or thinking?
Of course. Therapy is a process that supports the need to
be understood and validated. Sometimes clients will just want to vent, or
check to see if they are going crazy, or to just talk to someone about
recent events. Never feel like you can't open up and just talk. It is all
part of the process, but remember, the changes you are looking for will come
through your increasing awareness that forms throughout the Program.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Confidentiality is one of the most important components
between a client and psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high
degree of trust with highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not
discussed anywhere but the therapist's office. Every therapist should
provide a written copy of their confidential disclosure agreement, and you
can expect that what you discuss in session will not be shared with anyone.
This is called “Informed Consent”. Sometimes, however, you may
want your therapist to share information or give an update to someone on
your healthcare team (your Physician, Naturopath, Attorney), but by law your
therapist cannot release this information without obtaining your written
permission.
However, state law and professional ethics
require therapists to maintain confidentiality except for the following
situations:
* Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of
children, adults, and elders to the authorities, including Child Protection
and law enforcement, based on information provided by the client or
collateral sources.
* If the therapist has reason to suspect the client
is seriously in danger of harming him/herself or has threated to harm
another person.